So there we have it!!
We have a picture of marriage that is so clear
We live in a culture right now that what we are talking about has been muddled and muddied
There seems to be a lot of confusion
Holy Orders and Holy Matrimony are oriented toward service
They are not oriented for the individual necessarily but for others
This is the way we live our discipleship in Jesus
Paragraph 1601 says, “‘The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring.”
Marriage is a covenant
Marriage is an exchange of persons, not of goods or services
Marriage is between ONE MAN AND ONE WOMAN
Marriage is not with a bunch of people
Marriage is between themselves and it is a partnership of their entire lives
Marriage is permanent for their whole lives
Marriage is faithful for their whole lives
Marriage is oriented towards freedom for their whole lives
This is the point of marriage
You can get married out of love and that is great and wonderful
The mystery of the marriage covenant is that it is an image of the Trinity
God, who is love, creates us out of love and calls us to love
THIS IS SO CRITICAL!!
Even in the midst of the fact that marriage is a place that men and women are called to live out the image of the Trinity, what is marriage oriented towards?
Marriage is oriented towards the good of the spouses
A man lays down his life for his bride, for her good
A bride lays down her life for her husband, for his good
This is a vocation of service
A man does not get ordained to the priesthood so that he can be happy and fulfill all his dreams
Hopefully he is saying yes to a call to take him out of himself
So that’s the good of the spouses here, a vocation of service
That you say YES because I want your good
What is love?
Love is willing the good of the other
THAT IS CRITICAL!!
The second part is oriented toward the procreation and education of children
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT!!
It is a vocation to marriage and family because in our culture right now, it seems like the FAMILY PART has become OPTIONAL
At the very heart of marriage, it is oriented towards the procreation and education of offspring
We know that not all couples can have children naturally
That is a difficult and painful cross for so many people to carry
The very nature of the relationship is oriented towards the procreation and education of children
Procreation because this is where the sexual act happens in the context of marriage
Education because it’s not just have as many children biologically as you possibly can
The stable relationship between husband and wife that provides the context for the education of offspring
That they can be raised in a stable environment
THAT IS THE WHOLE POINT!!
Our culture has lost a sense of the true purpose of marriage
Scripture talks all about marriage
It starts with Adam and Eve, the marriage of the first man and first woman
It ends with the marriage feast of the Lamb
All throughout Scripture, marriage and family is a critical image
Especially the relationship of the Bridegroom, Jesus, to the Bride, the Church
MARRIAGE IN THE ORDER OF CREATION
Marriage is not purely a human institution
God Himself is the author of marriage
Marriage predates every culture
Marriage is the fundamental building block of society
Paragraph 1603 says, “‘The well-being of the individual person and of both human and Christian society is closely bound up with the healthy state of conjugal and family life.’”
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT!!
When marriages and families are healthy, cultures are healthy
Our secular culture is healthy
Our Christian culture is healthy
When you have the breakdown of marriage and family, what is that a sign of?
That is a sign of a lack of health in our secular culture
That is a sign of a lack of health in our Catholic culture, our Christian family
By His very nature, God calls us to love because He made us in His image and likeness
Not everyone has the opportunity or is called to Holy Matrimony
Marriage is very good in the Creator’s eyes
This is the love that God blesses and has intended to be fruitful and to be realized
What happens in the common work of Creation?
In Genesis Ch 1, God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth and subdue it.”
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT!!
When we did Bible in a Year we read the first chapters of Genesis and we talked about the Creation of Eve from Adam’s side and how God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I should make a helpmate.”
That term “helpmate” can seem demeaning to some people
Paragraph 1605 says, “Holy Scripture affirms that man and woman were created for one another: ‘It is not good that man should be alone.’ The woman, ‘flesh of his flesh,’ his equal, his nearest in all things, is given to him by God as a ‘helpmate’; she thus represents God from whom comes our help.”
“Helpmate” is not demeaning and does not mean maid or butler
That word “helpmate”, which is “ezer kenegdo” in Hebrew, is often used FOR THE LORD
This is not meant to be demeaning
MARRIAGE UNDER THE REGIME OF SIN
Because of brokenness, we do not experience this wholeness
We don’t always experience happiness or healthiness when it comes to our relationships and when it comes to marriage
Paragraph 1606 says, “Every man experiences evil around him and within himself. This experience makes itself felt in the relationships between man and woman. Their union has always been threatened by discord, a spirit of domination, infidelity, jealousy, and conflicts that can escalate into hatred and separation.”
Even though marriage is given to us as a great and incredible gift, so many of us have experienced have experienced the brokenness and pain of that gift
This is the painful reality of living in this broken world
Paragraph 1607 says, “According to faith the disorder we notice so painfully does not stem from the nature of man and woman, nor from the nature of their relations, but from sin. As a break with God, the first sin had for its consequence the rupture of the original communion between man and woman. Their relations were distorted by mutual recriminations; their mutual attraction, the Creator’s own gift, changed into a relationship of domination and lust; and the beautiful vocation of man and woman to be fruitful, multiply, and subdue the earth was burdened by the pain of childbirth and the toil of work.”
WHEN WE BREAK WITH GOD, WE BREAK WITH EACH OTHER!!
THAT IS WHAT SIN DOES!!
SIN EVEN BREAKS OUR OWN HEARTS!!
Nevertheless, God’s grace comes to us
God, in His infinite mercy, never refuses to help us
Without God’s help, we cannot achieve the union of our lives
Without God’s help, we could never live out the beauty of this high call
Because marriage is a high call
Matrimony is also a great gift
For so many of us listening, that is our gift and our call
It is our gift and our cross
It is our gift and our burden
Say YES to this gift
Say YES to the burden
Say YES to this cross
Say YES to this blessing
Fr. Mike is praying FOR YOU!!
Please pray for Fr. Mike and for each other!!
I cannot WAIT to see you tomorrow!!